Published on June 16th, 2014 | by Claire2
Real Mom Talk: What Not to Say to a Pregnant Woman
As you begin to look pregnant, suddenly everyone in the world has an opinion about the way you look, the foods you eat, the way you plan to feed your child, the size of your body, and a million other things. I’ve heard all of these things (directed at either me when I was pregnant or friends of mine when they were). Let’s all agree never to say them to any pregnant woman again.
“Wow, you look so tired. It must be a girl- they steal your beauty.” Thanks for saying how terrible I look.
“Oh, look how big you are side-to side, you’re obviously having a boy.” Please don’t comment on any part of a pregnant woman being big.
“You must be due any minute” (when the person still had 3 months to go) Again, size is not your concern.
“There’s no way you’re due tomorrow, that baby must not be growing right, you’re too small.” How many times can we say that the relative size of a pregnant woman is not your worry?
“Should you really be eating that?” Yes, yes, I should.
“You should eat ______ to help you and the baby.” Are you my personal nutritionist or doctor? If not, no comments please.
“If you get induced your baby isn’t going to be safe.” Are you my doctor?
“If you don’t get induced your baby isn’t going to be safe.” I repeat, are you my doctor?
“You shouldn’t walk around so much.” I’m a grown woman that can decide for myself how much physical activity I can do.
“You’re not walking around enough.”You don’t know my life.
“Wow, must be a huge baby in there!” Please stop talking about the size of pregnant women!
“How can you even walk?” Really?
“You must want a girl, since you didn’t get one yet.”
“Is this finally your husband’s boy?”
No. Just no. To anything along these lines.
Let’s all agree that no one should ever comment on the size of a pregnant woman, the size of her yet to be born baby, the food she is or is not eating, how she will be feeding her yet-to-be-born child, her level of activity, or the worthiness of one sex of baby over another.
Here’s what you can say to a pregnant woman:
“You look great.”
That’s it. No other unsolicited comments. Let’s just spread the word on this and make the world a better place for all pregnant women by shielding them from hurtful comments. And, while we’re at it, let’s also make sure everyone asks permission before touching a pregnant woman. It shouldn’t take too long to make these rules universal, right?
What’s the worst thing someone said to you while you were pregnant?